Comments on: I Am The Best Pickup Artist In The World http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/ Turn Your Fear of Approaching Women into Confidence Sat, 04 Feb 2012 15:23:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: MrAntiquity http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-39249 MrAntiquity Thu, 26 Jan 2012 05:12:44 +0000 http://approachanxiety.com/?p=57#comment-39249 @Carl-- You have a point--but at the same time a lot of people who the 'community' likes to brand 'AFC' are simply not concerned with getting as many hot girls as possible. Most (not all) people here are really trying to address something that was pretty elusive to them. I'd say that if you're able to pursue something that you would like to have, then you're fine. If you're unable to pursue it for some reason, as many of us are, that's where the problem comes in. 'AFC' really only applies to people who are stuck for some reason--in my opinion. @Carl–

You have a point–but at the same time a lot of people who the ‘community’ likes to brand ‘AFC’ are simply not concerned with getting as many hot girls as possible. Most (not all) people here are really trying to address something that was pretty elusive to them.

I’d say that if you’re able to pursue something that you would like to have, then you’re fine. If you’re unable to pursue it for some reason, as many of us are, that’s where the problem comes in.

‘AFC’ really only applies to people who are stuck for some reason–in my opinion.

]]> By: Carl888 http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-39247 Carl888 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 10:31:33 +0000 http://approachanxiety.com/?p=57#comment-39247 @ MrAntiquity: "Problem is when you’re stuck, or haven’t developed properly–or just suck with women–than these environments are actually pretty dangerous. If your dating skills are stuck at age 12 or 13, it’s very difficult when that kind of thing comes out in an environment where you’re normal in pretty much every other dynamic. " You sound overly pessimistic. If what I see every day is representative then more than 80% of the men are as underdeveloped as you portray yourself. Though Michael - if he's as good as he says - is someone to model, we have at least started to do so. We're RAFC's, not AFC's. Needless to say I totally agree with your cold approaches policy. Cheers, Carl @ MrAntiquity:

“Problem is when you’re stuck, or haven’t developed properly–or just suck with women–than these environments are actually pretty dangerous. If your dating skills are stuck at age 12 or 13, it’s very difficult when that kind of thing comes out in an environment where you’re normal in pretty much every other dynamic. ”

You sound overly pessimistic. If what I see every day is representative then more than 80% of the men are as underdeveloped as you portray yourself. Though Michael – if he’s as good as he says – is someone to model, we have at least started to do so. We’re RAFC’s, not AFC’s.

Needless to say I totally agree with your cold approaches policy.

Cheers, Carl

]]> By: MrAntiquity http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-39245 MrAntiquity Tue, 24 Jan 2012 04:17:59 +0000 http://approachanxiety.com/?p=57#comment-39245 @JonathanA and @Michael Michael does have a point though--if you are, in fact, decent with women to begin with, there are generally enough potential interactions (thousands) to work with, in the social circle, group environments, etc. Problem is when you're stuck, or haven't developed properly--or just suck with women--than these environments are actually pretty dangerous. If your dating skills are stuck at age 12 or 13, it's very difficult when that kind of thing comes out in an environment where you're normal in pretty much every other dynamic. So while it's true that you'll crash and burn a lot--it also allows you to develop normal social/dating skills in a less threatening environment--they don't know you, you're learning how to be a normal guy--what have you got to lose? That's why 'cold approaching' is helpful. @JonathanA and @Michael

Michael does have a point though–if you are, in fact, decent with women to begin with, there are generally enough potential interactions (thousands) to work with, in the social circle, group environments, etc.

Problem is when you’re stuck, or haven’t developed properly–or just suck with women–than these environments are actually pretty dangerous. If your dating skills are stuck at age 12 or 13, it’s very difficult when that kind of thing comes out in an environment where you’re normal in pretty much every other dynamic.

So while it’s true that you’ll crash and burn a lot–it also allows you to develop normal social/dating skills in a less threatening environment–they don’t know you, you’re learning how to be a normal guy–what have you got to lose?

That’s why ‘cold approaching’ is helpful.

]]> By: jonathana http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-39244 jonathana Mon, 23 Jan 2012 10:33:17 +0000 http://approachanxiety.com/?p=57#comment-39244 @Michael You are a know-it-all, aren't you?! @Michael

You are a know-it-all, aren’t you?!

]]> By: Michael http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-39243 Michael Sun, 22 Jan 2012 20:44:03 +0000 http://approachanxiety.com/?p=57#comment-39243 Why sweat yourself approaching women cold? It doesn't make much sense. There is awareness and body language communication between self and all females you meet. If you're aware of this interaction and read it, you'll know if you like her and if she likes you, without any need for verbal persuasion. If you notice it, any woman open for interaction is giving you clear signals. It's what they do! 'Trying' to pick them up with 'crash and burn' only rides roughshod over her signals. If you're that unaware, how do you expect her to react? I'll say it again! Every woman a man meets, interacts with her and she will be telling you clearly if she wants interaction. Just respond to her - if you want to, That's all it takes. Why sweat yourself approaching women cold? It doesn’t make much sense. There is awareness and body language communication between self and all females you meet. If you’re aware of this interaction and read it, you’ll know if you like her and if she likes you, without any need for verbal persuasion. If you notice it, any woman open for interaction is giving you clear signals. It’s what they do! ‘Trying’ to pick them up with ‘crash and burn’ only rides roughshod over her signals. If you’re that unaware, how do you expect her to react? I’ll say it again! Every woman a man meets, interacts with her and she will be telling you clearly if she wants interaction. Just respond to her – if you want to, That’s all it takes.

]]> By: Patrick http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-34645 Patrick Sun, 24 Jan 2010 17:25:05 +0000 http://approachanxiety.com/?p=57#comment-34645 Superb post, this is motivating as well as entirely true. If I had a Dollar for every excuse I've ever made I'd be a damn rich man. Superb post, this is motivating as well as entirely true. If I had a Dollar for every excuse I’ve ever made I’d be a damn rich man.

]]> By: Features http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-29108 Features Mon, 08 Jun 2009 16:53:30 +0000 http://approachanxiety.com/?p=57#comment-29108 Excellent post! This is just what I needed. Excellent post! This is just what I needed.

]]> By: i-shine-regardless http://approachanxiety.com/2007/01/i-am-the-best-pickup-artist-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-28471 i-shine-regardless Sun, 03 May 2009 23:35:23 +0000 http://approachanxiety.com/?p=57#comment-28471 Beautiful post. Beautiful post.

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