I Am The Best Pickup Artist In The World

by Eric Disco
Jan 25

I am the best pickup artist in the world. Or so it feels that way. I’ve got some skills. I haven’t been rejected at least for the past 48 hours. It feels like I’m whole again.

I have a Day 2 lined up for tonight and there are other women in my life. I am doing pretty well.

I remember another time when I felt like this. It was before I got into pickup.

I’ve had a number of girlfriends. But I never really had true choice with women. I never really approached women I didn’t know. I had too much approach anxiety.

To me it “wasn’t worth it.” It never turned into anything productive anyway. And most of all, it shattered my image of myself as a guy who was successful with women. I didn’t want to admit that I lacked skills.

I thought I had high self-esteem. And I did in a way. I was very good at some things. Some things I’ve been doing for decades. It was nice to be good at things. I like to feel like I am good at things.

But I wasn’t good with women. I couldn’t walk up to a woman and talk to her. And if by chance I was talking to a woman I was attracted to, it was always a wing and a prayer. I decided I needed to learn. No matter what.

I am the best pickup artist in the world. Or at least it’s easy to feel like it when you haven’t done many approaches in the last 48 hours, when you haven’t challenged yourself or stepped out of your comfort zone.

Today I’m out on the streets to approach and suddenly everything is out of place. I feel awkward and stupid, like I want to go home and practice and learn more before talking to a girl. I’m more comfortable in front of my computer than I am here.

I go to approach a girl on the subway platform. All of a sudden there are too many people around. Or she’s not hot enough. Or the train is about to come. Or I didn’t dress right today. Or I’m tired. There are always excuses. They are numerous and attack my motivation like vultures.

The best pickup artist in the world.

“Kill yourself a little every day.” Now I understand why they say that.

I approach a girl and the words stumble from my lips. I am humbled once again by the streets of New York City.

For whatever reason, it feels like I’m back in kindergarten today. And it’s okay, I accept that that’s my fate for today. I will feel a bit awkward today. Even though I won’t feel like the best pickup artist in the world anymore, I will approach a girl.

And if I fail, that’s the way it goes. It is my only option. Because by taking action, I swear to you, it is the only way I will feel differently tomorrow.

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posted in Initiative and Inhibition

COMMENTS
14 responses
Bib says:

Funny that, how there will always be excuses: “I’m tired”, “Too many people”, “She’s not pretty enough”, “It’s raining”, “She’s too pretty”, etc…

I’m wondering whether it’s really worth practising in the field every day if it never gets much easier than standing next to a girl and having the bottom fall out of your stomach each time you want to introduce yourself… I guess it has to get a little easier, after a while.

jarvi says:

I have stepped out of my comfort zone . I too am the best pickup artist now and I am loving it!!

Jake Danger says:

If you’ve got the right attitude, no technique at all is necessary, because you’ll do everything exactly right without even thinking about it. You can even break the rules and get away with it. The only time you ever need technique is when your attitude fails you – and even with perfect technique, all you’ve got at the end of the day is a clever mimicry of an alpha male, not the real thing.

That alpha attitude is in EVERY MAN – we were all born with it. It comes upon you all at once, in a split second. Nobody has to tell you when you’ve got “It” – you just KNOW it, balls to bones. The moment that you stand up and DARE to believe that you are the sexiest man in the world, no doubts or questions entertained, then you will have “It” – but not a single moment before that. The trick is KEEPING it, because it’s like a boxing match with the devil – one minute you’re reeling and staggering into your corner, the next you’ve just responded with a devastating uppercut. But a permanent knockout CAN be acheioved if you simply refuse to let up. And it will make all the difference in every area of your life, not only with women. Life will never be the same again.

Social says:

when ever i feel really scared i just go crash and burn method. where i ask the girl to do me a quick favor and reject me on purpose. surprisingly they laugh. and even if they do, its all part of the game. i reflect on how bad there rejection was only to find out that im still alive and its just all in my head

i-shine-regardless says:

Beautiful post.

Features says:

Excellent post! This is just what I needed.

Patrick says:

Superb post, this is motivating as well as entirely true. If I had a Dollar for every excuse I’ve ever made I’d be a damn rich man.

Michael says:

Why sweat yourself approaching women cold? It doesn’t make much sense. There is awareness and body language communication between self and all females you meet. If you’re aware of this interaction and read it, you’ll know if you like her and if she likes you, without any need for verbal persuasion. If you notice it, any woman open for interaction is giving you clear signals. It’s what they do! ‘Trying’ to pick them up with ‘crash and burn’ only rides roughshod over her signals. If you’re that unaware, how do you expect her to react? I’ll say it again! Every woman a man meets, interacts with her and she will be telling you clearly if she wants interaction. Just respond to her – if you want to, That’s all it takes.

jonathana says:

@Michael

You are a know-it-all, aren’t you?!

ethayer says:

No, he’s right! (so seyz a woman.)

MrAntiquity says:

@JonathanA and @Michael

Michael does have a point though–if you are, in fact, decent with women to begin with, there are generally enough potential interactions (thousands) to work with, in the social circle, group environments, etc.

Problem is when you’re stuck, or haven’t developed properly–or just suck with women–than these environments are actually pretty dangerous. If your dating skills are stuck at age 12 or 13, it’s very difficult when that kind of thing comes out in an environment where you’re normal in pretty much every other dynamic.

So while it’s true that you’ll crash and burn a lot–it also allows you to develop normal social/dating skills in a less threatening environment–they don’t know you, you’re learning how to be a normal guy–what have you got to lose?

That’s why ‘cold approaching’ is helpful.

Carl888 says:

@ MrAntiquity:

“Problem is when you’re stuck, or haven’t developed properly–or just suck with women–than these environments are actually pretty dangerous. If your dating skills are stuck at age 12 or 13, it’s very difficult when that kind of thing comes out in an environment where you’re normal in pretty much every other dynamic. ”

You sound overly pessimistic. If what I see every day is representative then more than 80% of the men are as underdeveloped as you portray yourself. Though Michael – if he’s as good as he says – is someone to model, we have at least started to do so. We’re RAFC’s, not AFC’s.

Needless to say I totally agree with your cold approaches policy.

Cheers, Carl

MrAntiquity says:

@Carl–

You have a point–but at the same time a lot of people who the ‘community’ likes to brand ‘AFC’ are simply not concerned with getting as many hot girls as possible. Most (not all) people here are really trying to address something that was pretty elusive to them.

I’d say that if you’re able to pursue something that you would like to have, then you’re fine. If you’re unable to pursue it for some reason, as many of us are, that’s where the problem comes in.

‘AFC’ really only applies to people who are stuck for some reason–in my opinion.

In my perspective, this is the winning attitude to have when in field and dealing with HB’s in general. Nice frame to have of thinking you’re the best @ this (a PUA) :)

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