Oh my god. I DO NOT feel like approaching today. After a long weekend of helping coach AoA, I’m totally drained today. It’s monday x10. I’m sitting here at work and I’m useless. The weather sucks ass out.

I make my way out to the nearby Barnes and Noble to at least do the one set a day I promised myself. I see a cute girl sitting at a table. I can’t seem to do it though. Why? “I don’t have an opener” runs through my mind. “What would I say after opening” is vying for attention as well. Both of them are somewhat lame excuses, given the fact that my focus right now isn’t even to make sure I get in, my focus is to do an approach, whether I get blown out or not.

I’ve been doing so many openings in the park and on the street, that now, for some reason, the bookstore is giving me a hard time.

I see another cute girl heading up the escalator. I don’t open anyone and decide to head back to work.

Coming back from getting coffee a few hours later I veer through the park just to see what’s what. I walk past a cute sout-asian looking girl in a green dress. I circle round. Stop, sip my coffee. Okay, I’m going in. Read the rest of this entry »

I recently began taking lessons in Alexander Technique and just finished a book called Body Learning, by Michael Gelb about the Technique. The Alexander Technique is a discipline which aims to change your habits in order to achieve balanced physical alignment and eliminate unnecessary muscle tension. I’d heard about Alexander Technique through Neil Strauss and also through a few of my Yoga instructor friends. I’d heard that it was a good way to improve posture.

If I told you to have good posture, the first thing you might do is tense up your back and neck as you try to “sit up straight.” However, if you’ve tried to do this, you can see that this is a difficult position to hold. With Alexander Technique, good posture is as much about relaxing certain muscles as it is about holding others in place in order to achieve an equilibrium that is maintainable.

I’ve had a few lessons and what I am currently focusing on is what is called a “forward rotation of the head.” To do this, you want to begin to slightly look downward but then raise your head as high as possible. This eliminates unnecessary neck compression and brings about spinal lengthening. Other disciplines describe this by having you find the very top vertebrae in your back, which is probably about an inch or two below your hairline and imagine a string were tied to it pulling it upward.

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I’m not in the mood today. Not in the mood to think about my routine stack, what I could say and not say, how to be more animated, how to generate attraction. Just not in the mood. I don’t feel like being funny. I don’t feel like trying.

It’s time for my set though and so I head out to the park. I feel a slight anxiety as I prowl girls going by. I’m getting better at this, better at spotting hot girls. When you pass enough girls that are close but just don’t cut it, all of a sudden you see one that cuts it and you better move.

I’m walking through the park and I see this super cute girl sitting at a table alone. The first thing that runs through my mind is “That girl is way too hot to approach.” I begin to silence the negative self-talk. But before my anxiety can spike my body is turning and walking toward her. Read the rest of this entry »

There was a slight spitting rain as me and my wing Glenn and his friend stood under a tree in Union Square park and jibber jabbered about pickup. I wasn’t quit in the mood to approach girls. Then this girl walks by who strikes my fancy.

Lately I’ve been opening girls that are either super hot because I think the more you get used to talking to hot girls the easier it gets. and I’ve also been trying to get used to opening girls that I just want to fcuk. While this may seem self-evident, I’m used to dialing down my attraction a couple of notches so I won’t be so nervous talking to her. But now I’m at a point in my game where I’m trying to dial that back up. I’m trying to crumble any connection there is between my raw physical attraction for a girl and my anxiety at approaching her.

So this girl walks by who was cute. Not scorching hot, but she was cute. Okay, so what caught my attention was the tight shirt with her nips poking through. But there was something cool about her style too.

After a few seconds I decide to open her and go running after her. Read the rest of this entry »

We’re in the middle of a heat wave here in NYC. It’s 106 degrees without wind chill and I’m dripping sweat by the time I get to work.

I do a single set every day at lunch and today I’m tempted to not go out. The park is deathly hot but I decide that this is when it’s most important to keep doing it–when I don’t feel like doing it. Consistency has gotten me this far.

I decide to head over to Barnes and Noble. I walk in and see this amazing girl. She’s gotta be a 9.5. Even though I had an amazing day 2 last night and have been number closing like crazy in the last few days, I begin to get approach anxiety. Read the rest of this entry »

I’m moving closer to my goal of being able to regularly open five sets a day, just going about my business. What I’ve been working on lately is commute game.

I love the routine of walking up to a girl, asking for her directions and then saying “Actually, I just wanted to say hi,” or “I just wanted to come flirt with you.” And then “My name’s Eric.”

In my opinion, it works better than anything else because it’s 100% clear that you are about to have a conversation if she doesn’t put the brakes on.

It’s about 9000 degrees as I step onto the subway platform. I begin my usual walk along the platform in search of women. I see this cute girl sitting down on a bench. Short red hair and huge blue eyes. Yum. Do I sit down next to her? I walk past and turn around. No eye contact. A few seconds later she stands up.

She’s cute. I walk over to her.

Me: “Can you tell me how to get to the Q train?” Read the rest of this entry »

I met up with my wing Glenn and one of his friends in Union Square park. We go toward a coffee shop.

It’s 11000 degrees out but you can’t spit without hitting a cute girl. There’s so many people on the sidewalk, you have to wait a minute before getting into the coffee shop.

In less time than it takes to tell, I spot this cute girl walking past. I stop her as my friends walk into the coffee shop. I ask her for directions to the library and follow up with “Actually I just wanted to say hi to you. My name is Eric.”

She’s into it but she’s a little suspicious. We’re in Union Square after all, with all the attractions and pitfalls of city life clustered in one area. But I think, beyond that, I wasn’t even expecting to open this girl, I did it in a split second, without even thinking.

We end up going into the coffee shop together and I instant date her. She’s cute with short brown hair (my favorite) and a body to die for. Turns out she’s only been in NYC for three weeks. Read the rest of this entry »