Sunday night. 8 pm. Union Square park New York City. I’ve been opening sets for the last six hours. I’m super-calibrated. No approach anxiety. The only question is where and when. Find me a set within 500 yards and I’ll open it. Girls are shooting me smiles at this point.

There’s a cute girl. She’s sitting down reading. This is my last set for the night. I walk over to open her. I don’t even think about what my opener will be as I sit down next to her. Do I number close? Without a doubt.

Monday. Lunchtime. Bryant Park, Midtown manhattan on my lunchbreak. I haven’t opened a set yet today. That girl is hot and alone. Nah, not my type. What about her? Okay, what about her? Nah. None of these girls are my type. Okay, there’s one. She’s amazing. Okay, what’s my opener. Shoot, I don’t have an opener. Wait, what??? I DON’T HAVE AN OPENER???? Read the rest of this entry »

One of the most important things you can do to improve your “looks” is to improve your posture.

If you are going to fix anything about your look, from working out, to getting a tan, to wearing cooler clothes, fixing your posture is probably one of those things that has the greatest effect. Good posture makes you look noble, upright, confident and poised.

I highly recommend something called Alexander Technique if you can afford it. The Technique is one-hour weekly lessons where a teacher works with you to help improve your posture. Read the rest of this entry »

I have a fear of public speaking. More precisely, I should describe it as a phobia. I’m not really scared, I just react badly when I get up in front of a large group of people. My blood pressure starts to rise, my skin starts to get flush, and worst of all, I lose all ability to think on the fly. I’m not so bad if I have something prepared, but God forbid if I have to think up something right then and there.Learning to be a better public speaker is a great thing. But conquering this area of my life probably wouldn’t be enough for me to practice public speaking every other week. I don’t make very many public speeches. But the benefits that go along with learning public speaking will help me in my every day life and in my game with women.

Women are attracted to the man up on the podium speaking to hundreds of people, whether he’s a preacher, a politician, or a professor. He is the one wielding control over the room and captivating the multitudes. True charisma is the ability to seduce thousands, not just one person Read the rest of this entry »