It is toward the end of our second coaching session.

Patrick has learned the first two steps: to get comfortable in a location and to position himself next to women he’s interested in.

We are in whole foods.  We have been walking around downstairs.  He will pick up an item of food and ask a woman how it is.

After she responds he says “Thank you” and walks away.

He does not continue the conversation.

I’ve forbidden him from doing so.

“What were you going to tell me?” I say to him when he returns.

“I’ve got fucking balls,” he says to me.

This is what he says to me after every interaction.  I do this with all my clients.

We come up with a phrase in the language he would normally use that he will come back and tell me after every interaction. Continue Reading »

My good friend Scott, an evolutionary psychologist, posted an article about speed dating on his blog, ScottandtheCity.com.

“Where are all the suave speed daters?” he asks.

I recently went to a speed dating event for the first time and had a really good experience.

Compared to internet dating, speed dating is a great addition to approaching women.

I used to do internet dating. Although I did it for a good number of years and had success at it, I’m not a huge fan of internet dating anymore. It’s just ends up being a huge timesuck without much payoff.

You spend a lot of time writing your profile and grooming it, changing things around to make it sound good.  Continue Reading »

Confident guys behave a certain way.

While all of them are different people, their confidence about who they are effects those around them.

People react differently to them.

I recently had a conversation with a very attractive 29-year-old friend of mine. She talked to me about attraction and her charismatic friend who’s great with women.

I have a friend who’s below average in the looks department.

But he walks into a bar like he’s the hottest guy in the place. And everyone buys that and is like “That’s the hottest guy in the whole bar!”

He’s got a huge red-haired Irish afro and is pasty and white and short and probably could drink less beer and work out more. I’m being honest. He would agree with me! Continue Reading »

Almost all women, when they’re in love with a guy, will act the same way.

The same mannerisms. The same submissive signals. The same surrender.

Almost all men, when they’re attracted to a woman, will act in a similar way.

For most of them, the best they can do is try to hide their attraction.

Very few men can actually surprise a woman once he’s attracted to her.

Men’s attraction is so transparent, that by the time she’s 21, an attractive woman has seen it all.

That woman couldn’t tell you what you should do differently if she were you. She couldn’t tell you what would excite her.

She just knows that it isn’t you who excites her. Continue Reading »

It’s 1 PM on a humid Saturday afternoon.

I step onto the subway train.

The air conditioning feels like a relief. I see an open seat and sit down in it.

Almost immediately I notice her.

She’s standing on the other side of the train. I can only see her from the back but she looks amazing in her tight shorts.

It’s only when she turns a bit can I see the full extent of her cuteness. She’s even cuter from the front.

Every other guy on the train notices her as well. You can see them stealing glances.

This is the first girl today who’s inspired my interest. I notice her back is fully tattoo’d and think to myself that I could tell her I like her tattoo.

But it would be too weird and too obvious to walk all the way across the train to tell her I like her tattoo. Even the thought of that gives me too much anxiety. Continue Reading »

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Naked Painting Party.
Corduroy Appreciation Club.
Turkish Bath House.
Cook Meals for the Hungry.
Queens Archery Range.

When is the last time you did something truly new and fun in New York City?

Jake Bronstein of Zoomdoogle publishes a fantastic guide of 314 fun things to do in New York City.

Available free as a PDF online here!

About five years ago, I took a workshop with a popular dating company.  They ended up inviting me back as an assistant coach a few months later based on my written reports about the approaches I was doing.  In the three months since I had seen them, I had gone out and done one approach every day. As I’ve talked about before, it was the toughest thing I’d ever done.  And at the same time, there is nothing I’ve ever done that’s fundamentally changed my physical confidence more. I was relaxed and self-assured when I came back. There was a certain calmness in the way I moved.

At the workshops, they had women who would come in for a few hours and give feedback to guys. Continue Reading »