I want you to picture something.

Let’s say your friend came up to you and said this:

“Oh my god, dude. This morning it was crazy. I had this weird experience. My heart started to race, almost as fast as it’s ever gone. I started to sweat. My blood pressure shot through the roof. I got crazy out of breath.”

You ask him “Shit, really? What were you doing?”

And he says “I was going out for a run.”

“Um, isn’t that… normal?” you respond.

“Well… yeah. But I don’t really run very much. So it was a new experience for me.”

You’re thinking in your head, well duh. Read the rest of this entry »

Being great with women can be confusing. Guys get a lot of mixed messages.

Don’t be the nice guy. Yet be warm and friendly with her.

Be genuinely interested in her and excited about what she’s saying. But don’t suck up to her.

Hold yourself strong and confidently. But don’t be guarded.

Be aggressive and make the moves. But don’t creep her out.

When I first got into this stuff it was exasperating. “Just tell me what to do!” I felt like yelling at people. Am I supposed to be nice or not nice?!

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It’s one thing to walk up to a woman standing somewhere and talk to her.

Or to walk up to a woman who is sitting down and ask if you can join her.

But how do you stop a woman who is walking? To some guys, it seems almost impossible.

But once you know a few basic ideas, it’s actually just as easy as approaching her when she’s not moving. Here’s how.

There are two basic things to focus on with stopping a woman who is walking: Familiar Voice Tone and Planting.

Firstly, let’s look at familiar voice tone. Read the rest of this entry »

“Let me see you do an approach,” my student says to me.

I start to get a little bit nervous. It’s easy to push guys to approach women.

“Go talk to her.” “Go say hi to that girl.”

But when a student asks you to demonstrate an approach, all of a sudden the pressure’s on you.

I’ve approached thousands of women.

And from the very first approach, to the very last, one thing always held constant:

Uncertainty.

No matter how many women you approach, the next is always a question mark.

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Being alive means being spontaneous, being open to new experiences.

One of the most important things we teach guys in our workshops is to LISTEN to what the girl is saying.

Appreciate her.

When you can do this, 90% of your work is done.

Most of the time now, when I go up to women and talk to them, I do not have any specific words in my head that I will say to them.

I love to be spontaneous.

When I say something to a woman that I’ve never said before, whether it’s fun playful banter, or something deep and emotional I’ve never told anyone–that is when I am truly alive.

This is what you are aiming for.

An interaction that is as personal as childhood memories.

An innocence that only comes when both of you have abandoned your security. Read the rest of this entry »

It was the summer of 1933 and Albert Ellis had a problem: He could not talk to women.

And he was quite angry at himself about it.

Albert Ellis loved psychology. He studied it a lot. He would later go on to become one of the most influential psychotherapists in history, among Carl Rogers and Sigmund Freud (Wikipedia).

But in 1933, Albert Ellis was quite angry at himself because he could not talk to women.

“I was born and reared to be shy and scared.” says Ellis of his upbringing. “Throughout my childhood and teens I had a real social phobia.

“I viewed public speaking as a fate worse than public masturbation. I opened my physically large mouth only among a group of my close friends. I avoided telling jokes for fear of flubbing the punch lines.

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Question:

What kind of person just goes up to someone and just wants to say hi? She’ll think I’m after something and her defense will go up.

Response:

It is weird to just walk up to people and talk to them.

Also, she’ll probably think you’re crazy.

She’ll think you’re trying to sell her something.

And she’s probably too hot, a girl like that gets hit on 50 times a day.

Or maybe she’s not hot enough, you want someone you’re REALLY attracted to.

Or she’s too busy.

She’s not your type.

She’ll think you’re a stalker. Read the rest of this entry »

Two months ago, we posted the free e-book, The Single Most Important Thing You Can Do To Get Beyond Approach Anxiety.

We had A LOT of downloads and positive responses.

Now I would love to hear YOUR feedback about what worked for you and what didn’t work.

Did you get out there and talk to women? What was the effect?

Were there things you did differently? What helped you the most? How far did you get?

Any and all feedback and criticism would be much welcome.

Post your comments below or on the forum. Or if you prefer to e-mail me personally, that would be great too. I will respond.

Thanks for reading,

Eric Disco

Every day, every moment, every first step requires bravery.

I step onto the train. There are people around me everywhere. Everywhere living their lives.

It is time for me to live mine.

But there are always excuses. There is always a reason for postponement. There is always something more to learn, more information to gather.

I cannot do this. And I never could.

Failure stands like a monument in your path. The world’s reflection of you. It always comes down to you, a you not enough.

You are not smart enough. You are not gifted enough. You are not handsome enough. You are not strong enough. You are lack fortitude.

You can’t do it. Read the rest of this entry »

Today’s post is by my good friend, Lance Mason, the founder of Pickup 101.

It’s late.

It’s getting later.

She looks up at you, leans in, and you kiss.

“Well, I guess I should go,” she says.

“Yep. I had a great time,” you say.

“Me too!” she says and smiles. Waiting. Standing there, as it’s getting later.

“Have a good night,” you say, and walk away.

And the first few steps you are happy, until something hits you.

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